21 Sep 2014 20:37 | 100,194 notes | Reblog
Anonymous:
why do black people use you in the wrong context? such is "you ugly" instead of "you're ugly" I know u guys can differentiate, it's a nuisance

you a bitch

miniprof:

rsbenedict:

It’s called copula deletion, or zero copula. Many languages and dialects, including Ancient Greek and Russian, delete the copula (the verb to be) when the context is obvious.

So an utterance like “you a bitch” in AAVE is not an example of a misused you, but an example of a sentence that deletes the copular verb (are), which is a perfectly valid thing to do in that dialect, just as deleting an /r/ after a vowel is a perfectly valid thing to do in an upper-class British dialect.

What’s more, it’s been shown that copula deletion occurs in AAVE exactly in those contexts where copula contraction occurs in so-called “Standard American English.” That is, the basic sentence “You are great” can become “You’re great” in SAE and “You great” in AAVE, but “I know who you are” cannot become “I know who you’re” in SAE, and according to reports, neither can you get “I know who you” in AAVE.

In other words, AAVE is a set of grammatical rules just as complex and systematic as SAE, and the widespread belief that it is not is nothing more than yet another manifestation of deeply internalized racism.

21 Sep 2014 11:08 | 17,542 notes | Reblog

offtothecircus:

morivan:

My dream for the 2016 presidential election is not having to choose which human rights I’m feeling like compromising on.

AMEN

20 Sep 2014 22:00 | 114,150 notes | Reblog

thedreamingbutterfly:

You hear all these “you’re not a real fan unless” and it lists a hundred things, but I met a dude today who saw my Deadpool pin and asked what my favorite story arc was, and I explained that while I loved Deadpool, I was new to Marvel (I only really got into it a year and a half ago) and hadn’t been able to find a lot of the comics. Instead of making a face or a derogatory comment, he just offered to send me all the stuff he had. That is a true fan.

20 Sep 2014 21:55 | 44,786 notes | Reblog
"I think one thing you can do to help your friends who are depressed is to reach out to them not in the spirit of helping, but in the spirit of liking them and wanting their company. “I’m here to help if you ever need me” is good to know, but hard to act on, especially when you’re in a dark place. Specific, ongoing, pleasure-based invitations are much easier to absorb. “I’m here. Let’s go to the movies. Or stay in and order takeout and watch some dumb TV.” “I’m having a party, it would be really great if you could come for a little while.” Ask them for help with things you know they are good at and like doing, so there is reciprocity and a way for them to contribute. “Will you come over Sunday and help me clear my closet of unfashionable and unflattering items? I trust your eye.” “Will you read this story I wrote and help me fix the dialogue?” “Want to make dinner together? You chop, I’ll assemble.” “I am going glasses shopping and I need another set of eyes.” Remind yourself why you like this person, and in the process, remind them that they are likable and worth your time and interest.

Talk to the parts of the person that aren’t being eaten by the depression. Make it as easy as possible to make and keep plans, if you have the emotional resources to be the initiator and to meet your friends a little more than halfway. If the person turns down a bunch of invitations in a row because (presumably) they don’t have the energy to be social, respect their autonomy by giving it a month or two and then try again. Keep the invitations simple; “Any chance we could have breakfast Saturday?” > “ARE YOU AVOIDING ME BECAUSE YOU’RE DEPRESSED OR BECAUSE YOU HATE ME I AM ONLY TRYING TO HELP YOU.” “I miss you and I want to see you” > “I’m worried about you.” A depressed person is going to have a shame spiral about how their shame is making them avoid you and how that’s giving them more shame, which is making them avoid you no matter what you do. No need for you to call attention to it. Just keep asking. “I want to see you” “Let’s do this thing.” “If you are feeling low, I understand, and I don’t want to impose on you, but I miss your face. Please come have coffee with me.” “Apology accepted. ApologIES accepted. So. Gelato and Outlander?”"
#613: How do I reach out to my friends who have depression? | Captain Awkward (via invisiblejonsters)
20 Sep 2014 21:53 | 289,935 notes | Reblog

admhawthorne:

crackinois:

I actually think this was one of my favorite and most powerful scenes in the show. Kate Mulgrew expertly portrayed the hurt we’ve all felt at one point or another when we were ostracized by people we wanted so desperately to be accepted by and the fact that this feeling knows no boundaries of age.

ached for her in this scene.

One of the best media descriptions of being ostracized ever. 

19 Sep 2014 17:03 | 123,194 notes | Reblog

laterinthecaveoflesbians:

watershiphobbits:

If you are a man who thinks it’s funny to make misogynist jokes purely to make your female friends uncomfortable/angry, then you are a misogynist.  It is not “just a joke.”  You literally are finding humor in the discomfort and dehumanization of women.  You are not helping, you are not making satire.  You are just being misogynist.

Yes, this includes you gay men.

18 Sep 2014 21:11 | 493 notes | Reblog

Unbreakable Now Expands to Include Relationship Violence and Child Abuse Survivors

projectunbreakable:

After almost three years of working one-on-one with sexual assault survivors, we began to discuss plans to expand our mission - we want to be able to support and extend the healing powers of Unbreakable to as many people as possible. After careful discussion and…

18 Sep 2014 21:11 | 102,654 notes | Reblog

a discussion on sexual orientation

  • me: *explaining various sexual orientations to a classmate*
  • classmate: wait, what's polyamory?
  • me: well, it's when someone has more than one intimate relationship at a time with the knowledge and consent of everyone involved.
  • professor: *overhears from front of class*
  • professor: that is d i s g u s t i n g
  • me: *defensively* um, actually, no it's--
  • professor: how DARE they put a greek prefix on a latin root like that?! What right do they have to decimate my beautiful antiquated languages?!?! GREEK AND LATIN DO NOT FRATERNIZE THIS IS LIKE THAT STUPID ROMANTIC SUBPLOT BETWEEN THAT DWARF AND THAT ELF IN THE DESOLATION OF SMAUG NO NO NO NO NO NO!!!
  • me: ....
  • me: ....
  • me: ....
  • professor: it should be polyerosy
18 Sep 2014 19:32 | 26 notes | Reblog
tatumedia:

Julia Volkova Criticized for View on Homosexuality 
Julia Volkova’s statements about possibly having a son who is gay are causing a stir around the internet. During her interview on the Ukrainian program “Lie Detector” (view here)  Julia Volkova stated that if her daughter turned out be a lesbian she would support it, but would not like to see her son be gay. She explained that for men it is a “stupid freedom” and even though t.A.T.u.’s image was all about same-sex love and its support, Julia said that when it comes to her own family, her son should not have the right to be “a faggot”. 

Absolutely heartbroken and disgusted. I’m done with Julia Volkova. I’m glad that Lena still tries to be a good example. 

tatumedia:

Julia Volkova Criticized for View on Homosexuality 

Julia Volkova’s statements about possibly having a son who is gay are causing a stir around the internet. During her interview on the Ukrainian program “Lie Detector” (view here) Julia Volkova stated that if her daughter turned out be a lesbian she would support it, but would not like to see her son be gay. She explained that for men it is a “stupid freedom” and even though t.A.T.u.’s image was all about same-sex love and its support, Julia said that when it comes to her own family, her son should not have the right to be “a faggot”. 

Absolutely heartbroken and disgusted. I’m done with Julia Volkova. I’m glad that Lena still tries to be a good example. 

17 Sep 2014 09:26 | 38,465 notes | Reblog

circuitbird:

footstepsinthefrost:

Why is the blame for romanticizing mental illness lodged at teenage girls documenting/trying to cope with their struggles with mental illness and not grown men who make movies about how medication is evil and schizophrenia is magic powers.

I’m just gonna reblog this every time I see it.

17 Sep 2014 09:23 | 363 notes | Reblog

obitoftheday:

Obit of the Day: The Royal Milliner

For more than thirty years Philip Somerville served as the milliner to Queen Elizabeth II, a busy job since Her Royal Highness was never spotted without something atop her head. Mr. Somerville made approximately 50 hats a year for the Queen.

Born in England, Mr. Somerville did not began his work with hats until his early 20s after trying his hand in the Merchant Marines and as an actor in Australia. In the late 1960s he returned to England ostensibly to work for the Star Hat company which had sent him abroad, but instead he was hired away by Otto Lucas, a designer of couture headwear.

Working on his own after Mr. Lucas’ death, Mr. Somerville was invited to design hats for Queen Elizabeth beginning in the 1980s. (No specific year was listed in the sources.) Not long after, her daughter-in-law Princess Diana also requested her own line of Somerville-designed chapeaus.

He credited Diana with returning the hat to some level of prominence in British society as young people became attracted to her choices of headwear.

Mr. Somerville’s designs were eventually seen on the heads of upperclass women across England. He even designed the headwear wore by Xenia (Famke Janssen) in the Bond film Goldeneye and Elektra King (Sophie Marceau) in The World is Not Enough.

Nearing the end of his career, Mr. Somerville designed a black and white, broad-brimmed feathered cap for Kate Middleton in June 2008. She wore it to Prince William’s induction into the Order of the Garter. The hat was later sold at auction in 2012 for £3,222, more than 10 times its original price.

Philip Somerville, who retired in 2008, passed away at age 84 on September 14, 2014.

Sources: The Telegraph and The Daily Mail

Images:

Top - Queen Elizabeth II wearing a Philip Somerville straw hat to the Buckingham Palace Garden Party, June 2014, courtesy of royalhats.wordpress.com and copyright of the Associated Press

Center - Princess Diana wearing a turban hat during a visit to Dubai in 1989. The hat was specifically designed to keep her hair concealed in a small attempt to honor the dress code of the United Arab Emirates. The photo is courtesy of Socialite Life.

Bottom - Kate Middleton wearing the above mentioned Somerville creation to the 2008 Order of the Garter ceremony. Courtesy of hellomagazine.com

Also relevant on Obit of the Day:

Murray Arbeid - Dress designer for Princess Diana

Raymond Hudd - American couture milliner

Lady Pulbrook - Royal florist